Opposites attract…we must have heard this phrase over a million times. As a matter of fact if we look at couples around us, we observe that every individual in the couple has opposite traits of the other. Then the question is how in the world did these guys meet? Why of all people did they choose each other? What is the underlying feeling of falling in love with the person who you are not? Is it destiny to fall in love with the wrong person?
I must share one such conversation, which quite amused me. I met an old family friend who is nearing 80 years. I had the good luck of spending quality time with him during one of my visits to his place. He worked in a bank all his life. Lived a very systematic life, likes to maintain a strict regime, plan agendas, ensure to dress-up prim and proper, loves to eat good food, loves to travel and most importantly keep himself busy. Its obvious, given his age, that he had an arranged marriage. He married a beautiful looking happy go lucky girl, 10 years his junior. Being quite simple, she never really bothered to dress up prim and proper from head to toe, she hated cooking and travelling and loved to sleep and laze around. Stunned? Well this is the fact. They spent the next 50 years of their life together and never really fought until now. Do you want to know why? Well till he was hale and hearty, he would always go out on his own, eat out whenever he felt like, caught up with his brothers for a drink and lived life on his own terms. Thus indicating that he himself was capable to suffice his needs and wants. But there came a time when he had to undergo an operation and his movement was restricted. He had to rely on his wife and children for many basic things. That’s when he got time to think about how his life had progressed and he realized that he did not fulfill any of his wishes. prior to his retirement, he had planned to visit a lot of places after his tenure.But alas! since his wife was not interested and prefered to stay at home, that plan did not materalised. At the dawn of his life he realized that all his life he was married to the wrong person and wished that he met one person who would share his interests, someone with to have a 'heart-to-heart- conversation and be his friend in his old age.
Another such case is that of a very close friend of mine. She is a person who doesn’t really have a check list. Prior to her marriage she believed that when the time is right, her man will come in her life. She however always knew that she would anyday prefer marrying a person who refrained from smoking and drinking, be witty and predictable. Guess what, she fell in love with a person who loves drinking (but not an alcoholic), loves smoking (is a complete chimeny), is quite shy but few pegs down and his emerges to have the persona of a different person altogether. But yes! she did take the plunge! I must say that he is a wonderful human being though but nothing like I envisaged she would get married too. When I look at her today being happily married (touchwood), I ask myself over ten thousand times, how did she know he was right for her when everything about him, 'according to her in him' was wrong. Someone once told me that ‘Lovers meet but never mate ; Fate will always introduce you to the other lover’ and now after looking at such fantastic examples, I truly believe in this. I have also agreed with what my mom always tells me ‘Couples are made in Heaven, someone somewhere is always there for you. When you meet him/her you will be surprised. Obviously since they are topsy-turvy version of what you thought your life partner would be!’ So don't shy away from meeting the person who is 'not your type' for all you know, he may the 'wrong' in your eyes...but the 'right' person for you!