Monday, October 9, 2017

Speak to me….I am always listening…

Many a times in our lives we just let go…it could be something we liked, it could be an idea of a vacation, it could be a much desired dish we wanted to eat that day, it could be a piece of jewellery we always wanted, it could be meeting an old friend, it could be a dream job we wanted, it could be a dream we wanted to pursue….just because we thought this was not meant to be!

We love telling to ourselves…IT WAS NOT MEANT TO BE….and messing our head in the future that ‘WHAT IF I HAD CHOSEN THAT PATH’ ‘WISH I HAD TAKEN A FIRM STANCE’….we keep giving reasons to ourselves for why it was best for us then. Not once we tell ourselves, ‘ITS NEVER TOO LATE’. We usually give ten reasons why we cannot have it. WHY DON’T WE GIVE OURSELVES THAT ONE REASON WHY WE WANT IT AND WE SHOULD TAKE THE LEAP OF FAITH!

In life, we usually believe that if there is a slightest doubt of failure, it’s better not to tread that path. For once we should ask ourselves what could be the worst case scenario. Experiencing failure, heart-breaks etc is a part of life. But atleast you know what went wrong. If you don’t try, if you don’t take the leap of faith you will never know what success or failure tastes like. There is a quote I read somewhere…if you want to really learn and come up with a fantastic idea, visit the graveyard of businesses. You will find so many learnings, you will fine so many stories which will give you good perspectives. You know the good thing of all this is you will know ‘WHAT NOT TO DO’ you will know ‘WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT IN A PERSON’ you will know ‘WHO TO TRUST’ and many such things what people will not tell you but their experiences and failures will tell you. Again this will not guarantee success. But at least it will make you wise.
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In relationships too, we always aspire to fall in love with the person for their quirks and then try to change those very quirks! We never believe in conversations, we never believe in talking out to the people who matter so much to you….and we conveniently just let them go away…and suddenly the person who you used to start your day with and end your day with becomes a total stranger….The concept of closures, the concept of understanding each other’s quirks, simple conversations is lost. Worst…. technology has made relationships emotionless! You believe in sharing your emotions through smilies and emojis but do you mean it? No one knows. If there is something you messaged or left a voice call on how you feel which is being mis-interpreted, people don’t even bother to check is this what you meant? Rather they just prefer to let GO! Is it that people had vested interests and since they realized they are not going to get what they wanted they ‘conveniently’ just LET GO!


Monday, March 27, 2017

Open your Heart...and love will happen!

I waited all night to wish you in the morning
I waited all morning to know what you ate for lunch
I waited all noon to hear your voice in the evening
I waited all evening to talk to you till I sleep
A cheer and happiness in doing this was far from unknown
A feeling I felt like never before…
I felt complete, I felt liberated, I felt on top of the world
The glow on my skin, the zeal in my soul, the beat of my heart echoed it all
I knew I was not supposed to fall in love
I knew I was not supposed to expect
I knew this was a mirage…yet it felt so surreal!
Its only when it crumbled, it hits you hard
Its only when it crumbled, you experience pain
Its only when crumbled, you feel bereaved
Its only when it crumbled, you realise all your efforts were in vain
Today I am stronger, I stand tall
I have learnt to get-up after that great fall
It is the courage from within which helped me take the leap of faith
It is the courage that helped me to learn from it all
Worthy is the woman who doesn’t pity her self
Worthy is the woman who takes responsibility for her decisions
Worthy is the woman who does not regret
Its not a shame to fall, but it’s a shame to not raise again
So open your heart once again my girl

Your good days have begun and everything will be good!
Love will happen again...

Friday, March 24, 2017

When I wanted to bond….

Being an accommodating person sometimes can be a curse. It is misconstrued as a person who does not have an opinion. A person, who is incapable of proving his or her stance in a discussion/debate. A person you can manipulate, insult, belittle, ignore, abuse etc…all simply because he or she just understands you and doesn’t want a conflict or to hurt you.  So the question is, Is it good to be an understanding person in a relationship? Are these traits required only for a woman?

I read a good post today : A daughter tells her father, “Dad I don’t think I will be a good daughter or a daughter in-law or wife’. Her father asked her ‘Why’ she replied ‘Because I will not compromise in my life’. This speaks volumes about the role we women play in our lives. When we are kids, our parents will always say, ‘Don’t laugh loudly, girls should not do that’, “Its ok if you don’t get a new dress’, Learn to live without some things’ ‘Try to be low maintenance, your husband will be happy’ ‘Don’t voice your opinions, its not good to be opinionated’ “When you ask for permission for a picnic or travel' the standard answer is 'Go with your husband" and many more such preposterous statements. Can anyone in this world understand a woman’s predicament?

When you are looking for a guy to get married, he makes a statement, I am an average Joe, you cannot have any perception of me but I do have my strong views and thoughts. You cannot influence me or tell me your quirks, I will not buy yours but you will have to accept me the way I am. Can someone please tell me 'how are you supposed to react?' Isn’t it a simple equation, I am a human, I am a person of character, I will have a certain way of living life which are in-line with the way I am bought up. If you have liked me then you have to accept me the way I am and not mold me into someone I am not. I will not want you to change your way of life. All I will want you to do is respect me and love me….bond with me like we are meant to be together for life…

Remember if we end up together, all we will have is each other. It is the ability to make conversations that will keep us alive. It is the ability to have accepted each other the way we are that will change the words ‘tolerating each other’ to ‘loving and bonding with each other’. We will need to discover each other with each passing day. That is all I am asking from you. You never understood me, probably never wanted me, probably got bored of me….I don’t know….all I wanted was to bond with you. I was just being me….there was no pretense……..but I guess after you said Enough of the niceties….I just gave up! 

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Me in the New Year....2017 will sure be good!!!


No one is in charge of your happiness except you
Magic happens when you don’t give up even though you want to. The universe always falls in love with a stubborn heart
Be picky with whom you invest your time in wasted time is worse than wasted money
Some loved her for her honesty some hated her for her truth neither a poet nor a writer she was just a simple woman who thought deeply and felt too much
You know what breaks me? When someone is visibly excited about a feeling or a n idea or a hope or a risk taken and they tell you about it but prefer it with :Sorry this is dumb but-“
Don’t do that
I don’t know who came here before me, who conditioned you to think you had to apologize or feel obtuse. But, bot here. Dream so big it’s silly. Laugh so hard it’s obnoxious. Love so much it’s impossible.
And don’t you ever feel unintelligent. And don’t you ever apologize. And don’t you ever shrink so you can squeeze yourself into small places and small minds.
Grow. It’s a big world. There’s room. You fit. I promise
You may not see it today or tomorrow but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful or where you’ve always wanted to be
Trust the timing of your life
And in the end all I learned was how to be strong alone
I still may not know what I want but I do know that someday I want to live in a house filled with my books and travel souvenirs and the walls that aren’t covered with bookshelves will be covered with photos of my family and friends. When I leave the house I will be going to a job I love and Ill return to a person I love. So, that’s the dream I am working on
Some people aren’t loyal to you they are loyal to their need of you. Once their need changes so does their loyalty
Say goodbye to drama toxic people and self- criticism. Say yes to more happiness, time with good friends and love
You said you liked storms so I let you in. turns out you can only handle little rain, and I am a hurricane!
Marry the one who gives you the same feeling you have when you see your food coming at a restaurant
Work hard in silence let our success be your noise
Working for success will make you a master but working for satisfaction will make you a legend
Psychology says no matter how angry you get you always end up forgiving the people you love
When you wish good for others good things come back to you this is the law of nature
We fall in love with one version of someone and we expect them to stay that way but they never do
Most of our mistakes the big ones at least are the result of allowing emotion to overrule logic. We knew the right choice but didn’t obey
I focused so hard on what I wanted that I lost sight of what I deserved
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserved but don’t do it again

Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will!
Note: This compilation of quotes are picked up from various sources available from secondary sources. These are some beautiful quotes from various sources which inspired me to inculcate these into my life.....None of these are written or owned by me...

Saturday, December 31, 2016

The year gone by…

Every year brings promises, positivity, optimism and hope which make us believe in life.  I experienced a beautiful year which bought so much of appreciation for something called life that we never live. I thought of sharing a feeling bought by every month during the year that made it so special….

January – The leap of faith. In life when you build a wall around you, you feel that’s your safe zone. Breaking that wall and seeing how beautiful the outside world is something every person must do. This month I took the leap of faith, broke the walls and saw the beautiful world. And yes it was very very beautiful. My heart, soul and mind felt good, liberated and on seventh heaven.

February – Bonding. When you know that your family needs something more than just your presence, you go out of the way to make them feel you care. I learnt a little more, I loved a little more and realised that bonding of hearts is more important. This is possible only with conversations. Being surrounded by kids who you adore and love gives you a different sense of bonding. New friends, new family members all made this month a month of bonding.

March – On top of the world. The month is special to me because it is the month I was bought into the world.  Every year this month, irrespective I make it special for myself. It bought me joy, happiness, love, respect, togetherness with all my loved ones. It made me feel  special, wanted and loved!

April – Focus. Work has always been demanding. Sometimes it is difficult to understand whether work controls me or I control work. This month is was a huge struggle to maintain work life balance. The tug-of-war was immense. But the fighter that I am I managed and won. It was focus that kept me on my toes and made sure that I achieved my goal. Kept everyone happy including myself.

May – Togetherness. The month was only about togetherness. Family get-together, happy times with friends gave me happiness that I could not fathom. I decided to get drowned in this positive aura around me. It was the most memorable month of the year for me apart from ya March!

June – Stability.  Both in my personal and professional life this month saw stability. Everything was moving in a direction that I wanted so desperately – cool and steady. With everything under control life felt so good. For the first time in many years I felt stable, secured…..and most importantly happy!

July – Doubt/mirage. Eyes don’t lie. Its true. Behaviours speak volumes about whats going on in your mind. On closely observing people around me, it occurred to me that I need ask myself a question, am I seeing a mirage? Is everything around me real or is it made to feel real. The reality test is required. Some introspection is required. There was something that I could not put my finger on…what was it…something is not right my heart and head screamed. Something was wrong somewhere…why why I cannot see it…

August – The test. They say when you keep something close to your eye you cannot see clearly therefore its important to distance yourself from it. The aura and energy around you doesn’t lie. The look in a person’s eye doesn’t lie. Therefore I decided to be more observant.  The month made me realize that all that is seen or shown is not true. There is a truth far, more ugly, beneath it. I asked myself do you the courage to face it. The answer was yes. My own shortcomings were seen. I put myself to test to know the reality, to know the truth…….

September – The Reality. Cards were revealed, masks were removed, monsters were unleashed, and deceit was bestowed during the month.   An era of ‘difficult to accept ‘was something I had to face.  Sleepless nights, night sweats, unbelievable agony was unleashed.  The very feeling that you are amidst a tornado which will ruin and destroy everything you every owned or had was scary. All you could think of is how good you have been and how you are blessed by your parents and god.  But the reality was something I had to face, it hurt and hurt bad….

October – Facing the reality. I realised that I was good soul as I could not hate people who had done wrong.  When you know you have always been blessed by your parents and your belief if god is unshakeable, you become stronger than you can imagine.  Living in isolation would force you to continue believing in the mirage or bubble you were living in so I decided to face the reality. The mantra was ‘bring it on’. So I did it. Faced the reality, every bit of it and realised that its time to bring to rest every bit of apprehension, every bit of trust and every bit of hope. All you had worked for seemed worthless. Every time you thought you excelled was actually perceived as your shortcoming.  It was me who had to face it and turn the leaf. Work with more vigour, focus more than ever and spring back. I had to me!!!

November – Acceptance. Words, words, words that you tell yourself are good. But what do you do with a mind which keeps going back to the short comings? What do you do with your heart that has hope?  Nothing!  The solution is to let it be! Time will show you your capabilities and strengths. Your focus should be on you. You should realise that you are the good and today or tomorrow you will be blessed.  Its time to focus on new goals, new beginnings….

December – All is well its time to look ahead. Lesson learnt now its time to look forward. The best pact is when you accept your shortcomings, you become wiser. Now you know what NOT  to do. The good part is despite the ups and downs, I have not lost myself. I still believe in people. I have become wiser. I still believe life is beautiful ….the only time you need to look back is to check how far you have come

Friday, December 23, 2016

Eyes don't Lie

Words spoken are what the mind says
Poems are what the heart says
A glance a look without a word spoken can help you fathom the depths unheard off
Do you then believe in what you just saw or was it your heart wanting to see it?
Questions unanswered but worth the thought will always pay is what they say
Eyes don’t lie, they speak in volumes learn to listen, learn to see what they want to show
The warmth in the look is a sign they care, they follow you everywhere
They skip a beat if you are in trouble and smile when you are happy in your bubble,
Remember these are the eyes of the one who for you can bring down the skies only for you
The coldness in the look is a sign of indifference, they don’t really care
They heave a sigh when you are away and smile when you are in pain
Why do you still search for the warmth when the coldness is inside-out, you need to learn to let-go without a doubt
The scared look is a sign of a lair who loves to cheat you
They know you care and are happy they fooled you
Why then you still believe?  You need to be happy to let go, after all its important to relieve
It’s important to beware of actors, and boy aren’t there a million out there
It’s important to differentiate between actions and the look
His actions may say something so good you want to see and hear
But his eyes say far more, fathom the depths of his eyes, tell him you know that

 Eyes don’t lie, they speak in volumes and youv learnt to listen, learnt to see and now you know!

Sunday, November 1, 2015

Just before the eyes met!

Technology has changed the way relationships work…. We also know the simple math. First the eyes meet..If the eyes say ‘Yeah I think he/she is good/attractive I think I should just speak to him/her’ you take the first step. This is followed by a general chat, some initial outings, compatibility test (wow the karmic connection we all want so much), love (if it happens) and then the next crucial life making/destroying (laugh!) decisions and so on and so forth… Needless to say it’s the physical presence, the expressions, the laughter, the anguish, the fights that help you make this relationship but the underlying message is ‘Everything begins with when YOUR EYES MEET!’

Today however the math has reversed?! First your mind has to give that message to your fingers ‘Accept that Request’ ‘Send that Request’! Then the conversations begin…you chat and chat and chat…all your expressions are virtually transmitted through your smilies & other graphics. Then when you type something and the other person says ‘Shoot I was gonna ask you the same question and you answered (or) wow you are not going to believe this! I was just gonna type out the same….walah! You believe that it is a karmic connection…gradually you tend to say ‘Let’s just chat over the phone’ that’s when you hear the voice….and you like it J you decide hmmm not bad! Then since you have already liked the chats (virtually) the telephonic conversations get better (not necessarily) you tend to understand the person more with his/her voice modulations and try just TRY to understand the person with this…gauge whether is he/she really interested, is this merely a trial and error…is this person genuine…Interestingly if things go the way you wanted and/or you are a person who just wants time to decide whether this is good or no you continue.... Gradually you realize that this person becomes so important to you that you start doing things you have never done before….like make time as you know he/she will call, ignore your friends and keep chatting or keep checking your phone when there is a notification, WAIT at odd hours for one message from him/her, probably stop right in the middle of the road in your car just to take the call, or sit out of your house in your car in the middle of the night and speak…..and many such things you have never ever done….WHY IN THE FREAKING WORLD YOU DO IT? YOU SIMPLY DONNO!

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So you have somewhere touched the heart of someone sitting somewhere in the world...and that makes you feel good..scared...apprehensive...and name all the adjectives that describle...'GOD LET THIS BE TRUE PLEASE!' 

now when indeed this happens...Distance doesn’t matter, time doesn’t matter, work doesn’t matter. You just flow with the wind and accept whatever is in store. Worst it makes you a person you never were especially when you know that you are supposed to hear but you don’t and you go all paranoid…which you usually DON’T…and you ask yourself ‘what the heck?!’Why in the freaking world did I do that…I have never behaved like this ever before? Then you are in a dilemma…on whether to step back or take the step forward since you are OBVIOUSLY giving the wrong message to the other person…How do you explain this? What do you do is something you will never know…and probably you will never be able to reason or understand as well…therefore CHUCK IT! Just forget it and move to the next day..if it is business as usual GOOD if not speak reason out and then decide the steps forward….

So now moving on to the conclusion of the math..I mean it’s obvious that something plus something must give you an answer right! Your eyes have to MEET coz that’s when TWO PATHS FATED TO CROSS COULD CULMINATE TO ONE STORY OR OTHERWISE! I always wonder in such cases what will cross the person’s mind when their eyes finally meet!!!!
Waiting to see JAB THE EYES MEET ….story to be contd.