Monday, October 9, 2017

Speak to me….I am always listening…

Many a times in our lives we just let go…it could be something we liked, it could be an idea of a vacation, it could be a much desired dish we wanted to eat that day, it could be a piece of jewellery we always wanted, it could be meeting an old friend, it could be a dream job we wanted, it could be a dream we wanted to pursue….just because we thought this was not meant to be!

We love telling to ourselves…IT WAS NOT MEANT TO BE….and messing our head in the future that ‘WHAT IF I HAD CHOSEN THAT PATH’ ‘WISH I HAD TAKEN A FIRM STANCE’….we keep giving reasons to ourselves for why it was best for us then. Not once we tell ourselves, ‘ITS NEVER TOO LATE’. We usually give ten reasons why we cannot have it. WHY DON’T WE GIVE OURSELVES THAT ONE REASON WHY WE WANT IT AND WE SHOULD TAKE THE LEAP OF FAITH!

In life, we usually believe that if there is a slightest doubt of failure, it’s better not to tread that path. For once we should ask ourselves what could be the worst case scenario. Experiencing failure, heart-breaks etc is a part of life. But atleast you know what went wrong. If you don’t try, if you don’t take the leap of faith you will never know what success or failure tastes like. There is a quote I read somewhere…if you want to really learn and come up with a fantastic idea, visit the graveyard of businesses. You will find so many learnings, you will fine so many stories which will give you good perspectives. You know the good thing of all this is you will know ‘WHAT NOT TO DO’ you will know ‘WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT IN A PERSON’ you will know ‘WHO TO TRUST’ and many such things what people will not tell you but their experiences and failures will tell you. Again this will not guarantee success. But at least it will make you wise.
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In relationships too, we always aspire to fall in love with the person for their quirks and then try to change those very quirks! We never believe in conversations, we never believe in talking out to the people who matter so much to you….and we conveniently just let them go away…and suddenly the person who you used to start your day with and end your day with becomes a total stranger….The concept of closures, the concept of understanding each other’s quirks, simple conversations is lost. Worst…. technology has made relationships emotionless! You believe in sharing your emotions through smilies and emojis but do you mean it? No one knows. If there is something you messaged or left a voice call on how you feel which is being mis-interpreted, people don’t even bother to check is this what you meant? Rather they just prefer to let GO! Is it that people had vested interests and since they realized they are not going to get what they wanted they ‘conveniently’ just LET GO!


Monday, March 27, 2017

Open your Heart...and love will happen!

I waited all night to wish you in the morning
I waited all morning to know what you ate for lunch
I waited all noon to hear your voice in the evening
I waited all evening to talk to you till I sleep
A cheer and happiness in doing this was far from unknown
A feeling I felt like never before…
I felt complete, I felt liberated, I felt on top of the world
The glow on my skin, the zeal in my soul, the beat of my heart echoed it all
I knew I was not supposed to fall in love
I knew I was not supposed to expect
I knew this was a mirage…yet it felt so surreal!
Its only when it crumbled, it hits you hard
Its only when it crumbled, you experience pain
Its only when crumbled, you feel bereaved
Its only when it crumbled, you realise all your efforts were in vain
Today I am stronger, I stand tall
I have learnt to get-up after that great fall
It is the courage from within which helped me take the leap of faith
It is the courage that helped me to learn from it all
Worthy is the woman who doesn’t pity her self
Worthy is the woman who takes responsibility for her decisions
Worthy is the woman who does not regret
Its not a shame to fall, but it’s a shame to not raise again
So open your heart once again my girl

Your good days have begun and everything will be good!
Love will happen again...

Friday, March 24, 2017

When I wanted to bond….

Being an accommodating person sometimes can be a curse. It is misconstrued as a person who does not have an opinion. A person, who is incapable of proving his or her stance in a discussion/debate. A person you can manipulate, insult, belittle, ignore, abuse etc…all simply because he or she just understands you and doesn’t want a conflict or to hurt you.  So the question is, Is it good to be an understanding person in a relationship? Are these traits required only for a woman?

I read a good post today : A daughter tells her father, “Dad I don’t think I will be a good daughter or a daughter in-law or wife’. Her father asked her ‘Why’ she replied ‘Because I will not compromise in my life’. This speaks volumes about the role we women play in our lives. When we are kids, our parents will always say, ‘Don’t laugh loudly, girls should not do that’, “Its ok if you don’t get a new dress’, Learn to live without some things’ ‘Try to be low maintenance, your husband will be happy’ ‘Don’t voice your opinions, its not good to be opinionated’ “When you ask for permission for a picnic or travel' the standard answer is 'Go with your husband" and many more such preposterous statements. Can anyone in this world understand a woman’s predicament?

When you are looking for a guy to get married, he makes a statement, I am an average Joe, you cannot have any perception of me but I do have my strong views and thoughts. You cannot influence me or tell me your quirks, I will not buy yours but you will have to accept me the way I am. Can someone please tell me 'how are you supposed to react?' Isn’t it a simple equation, I am a human, I am a person of character, I will have a certain way of living life which are in-line with the way I am bought up. If you have liked me then you have to accept me the way I am and not mold me into someone I am not. I will not want you to change your way of life. All I will want you to do is respect me and love me….bond with me like we are meant to be together for life…

Remember if we end up together, all we will have is each other. It is the ability to make conversations that will keep us alive. It is the ability to have accepted each other the way we are that will change the words ‘tolerating each other’ to ‘loving and bonding with each other’. We will need to discover each other with each passing day. That is all I am asking from you. You never understood me, probably never wanted me, probably got bored of me….I don’t know….all I wanted was to bond with you. I was just being me….there was no pretense……..but I guess after you said Enough of the niceties….I just gave up! 

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Me in the New Year....2017 will sure be good!!!


No one is in charge of your happiness except you
Magic happens when you don’t give up even though you want to. The universe always falls in love with a stubborn heart
Be picky with whom you invest your time in wasted time is worse than wasted money
Some loved her for her honesty some hated her for her truth neither a poet nor a writer she was just a simple woman who thought deeply and felt too much
You know what breaks me? When someone is visibly excited about a feeling or a n idea or a hope or a risk taken and they tell you about it but prefer it with :Sorry this is dumb but-“
Don’t do that
I don’t know who came here before me, who conditioned you to think you had to apologize or feel obtuse. But, bot here. Dream so big it’s silly. Laugh so hard it’s obnoxious. Love so much it’s impossible.
And don’t you ever feel unintelligent. And don’t you ever apologize. And don’t you ever shrink so you can squeeze yourself into small places and small minds.
Grow. It’s a big world. There’s room. You fit. I promise
You may not see it today or tomorrow but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful or where you’ve always wanted to be
Trust the timing of your life
And in the end all I learned was how to be strong alone
I still may not know what I want but I do know that someday I want to live in a house filled with my books and travel souvenirs and the walls that aren’t covered with bookshelves will be covered with photos of my family and friends. When I leave the house I will be going to a job I love and Ill return to a person I love. So, that’s the dream I am working on
Some people aren’t loyal to you they are loyal to their need of you. Once their need changes so does their loyalty
Say goodbye to drama toxic people and self- criticism. Say yes to more happiness, time with good friends and love
You said you liked storms so I let you in. turns out you can only handle little rain, and I am a hurricane!
Marry the one who gives you the same feeling you have when you see your food coming at a restaurant
Work hard in silence let our success be your noise
Working for success will make you a master but working for satisfaction will make you a legend
Psychology says no matter how angry you get you always end up forgiving the people you love
When you wish good for others good things come back to you this is the law of nature
We fall in love with one version of someone and we expect them to stay that way but they never do
Most of our mistakes the big ones at least are the result of allowing emotion to overrule logic. We knew the right choice but didn’t obey
I focused so hard on what I wanted that I lost sight of what I deserved
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserved but don’t do it again

Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will!
Note: This compilation of quotes are picked up from various sources available from secondary sources. These are some beautiful quotes from various sources which inspired me to inculcate these into my life.....None of these are written or owned by me...