Different versions of your Valentine….!!

The Human life cycle is very unique. The whole concept of love changes with time.

There is a point in time when your sibling getting a slightly bigger piece of cake makes you feel that your parents love you less. When your sibling speaks to his/her friend makes you think they love you less everything revolves around your family. Then comes a phase when ‘that look’ ‘that smile’ ‘that attention’ matters the most in the world. It’s that ‘first time’ love experience that matters the most over and above your family and friends. At this point in time, if it blossoms it’s like the world is at your feet and if it crumbles it’s your first heart break…..which for some is easier to get over and for some it’s an itch for life!

As much as the stage of your teens is usually when you first experience love, which actually are all those wretched hormones playing their games, I personally believe it’s the purest form of unconditional love. Worst part of

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this period is that you are ready to put up all the possible quirks of your valentine. That is why I believe that people marrying and having a lovely life with their childhood sweethearts are the luckiest. Having survived all the stages is indeed a blessing.

The next stage of your 20’s is quite tricky. That’s when you are mentally still a kid, a carefree person, full of energy, but you are expected to grow up! Look for a job, be responsible among other worldly pressures imposed on you. During this period, you look for a person who is smart, dynamic, adventitious, go-getter, talkative and so called ‘full of life’.  Everything about this person has to be about the perception he/she creates about themselves in their circle. Usually you will find people blending better with their workplace mates. The common belief is since I spend so much time with them, they know me. They understand me. We share similar interests. Thus, when you meet someone like this, and you are under family pressure you think, hey since I spend time with this person, I think I like him…how much will it take to love him…ya…maybe after marriage I will love him…afterall marriage is all about knowing each other more…..Valentines day at this stage is all about holidays, partying, boozing, hooping party places, pubbing, clubbing etc.

The next stage is your 30’s when you are mentally and financially stronger. A person who knows their priorities and preference. A person who has a clear idea about their ‘valentine’. At this stage, a girl looks out for a person who will respect, her, give her the freedom she needs, give her a comfortable life and enforce his likes & dislikes on her. A guy will look for a woman who can share the responsibility, be independent, be more responsible and look good. Valentine’s day at this stage will mean partying at the best places, sit down dinners, holidaying, diamonds, boozing and clubbing. Usually your valentine is a person who is hot and super fun to be with.

The next stage is your 40’s when you are event more stronger mentally and financially but most importantly you are extremely practical. Your threshold to listen to gibberish & nonsense is limited. You prefer being with someone who you can have meaningful conversations, you look for a person who can sees into your soul. You look at people who enjoy the serenity of nature, the serendipity of falling in love with your immaterial personality, understand conversations, have fun but in moderation, enjoy soul searching and last but not the least, make sure you have your individuality! Valentines day at this stage will mean, giving a tight hug and an outing at a cozy place or what better than your house!  If its an outing, its usually to a place where there will be soft music in the background, good food, wine and some diamonds to bring some sparkle in the eyes of your lady love.

In your 50s’ if you have the same zeal, you will re-live your 40s’ here. Nothing much changes until you are 58. But honestly, the moment you take steps closer to your 60’s you just want to appreciate your better half or just become extremely critical of your partner. Your valentine will be the person you love to argue, fight, mother, care, smother with love, and relive the life of caring for your kids which now is none other than your better half. Your Valentines day is usually sitting next to each other looking at the sunset, sipping a cup of hot tea and munching some biscuits. Talking away to glory about how time passes by and how you are blessed to have each other. How you would’ve done things a little different or how would have life been if they were not in your life…….and that my dear friend is the true Valentine that our soul searches right from the first time we experience love. We never realize that the true person who has seen our soul, who has accepted us with our quirks….just like how our parents did when we were kids, just like we loved our parents despite all the scolding…..unconditional and pure!