Many a times people think that they are not worth the person they care for or love. Is it one way to outright reject the person and make the other person feel special or better? I really don’t understand this as why don’t you let the other person decide what is good for him or her. I am sure each of you reading this must have heard/come across/ or even experienced this. Have you ever wondered that ‘why people think this way’ is it the love for the other person ? is it a politically correct way of simply rejecting people or is it their fear of being rejected. Perplexed? So, am I and honestly it really drives me crazy to think or fathom what’s going on that person’s head when they say these words.
So what I have tried to do is assimilate all the apprehensions in the persons head as my own and articulate what forced them to say so as well as write what the person at the receiving end is thinking. Usually men think that women want ‘financial stability’ and ‘good looks’ in a relationship among the top few in addition to all of them listed in the picture. They believe that every beautiful woman they want will get hitched to the richest guy in the room even if he looks like a local goon. Therefore, if they are attracted to a girl and considers her a good friend they ‘in their head’ make up a story where they see themselves as individuals who are unable to fulfil the financial needs of their counterpart and/or lack good looks to suit her. The most probable action of this low esteem is to move away from the girl and be a silent admirer. When their close friends ask them to give a try the standard answer is ‘No yaar, she is too good’ ‘She doesn’t deserve a person like me , she deserves someone better’. Thus to cut the long story short, the effort is never made and a beautiful relationship is nipped at the bud!
Now for some girls, ‘financial stability’ and ‘good looks’ matter a lot…no denying that. Having said that, most of the ‘financially independent’ ‘smart’ girls, these two factors are last or second last on the ‘so called list’. Reason is simply, she is independent therefore she can help in ensuring that both bring about financial stability in the relationship. If she is drop dead beautiful she will sort for guy who can fund her lifelong beauty treatments. However, if she is grounded and smart, she would want a man to suit her intelligence and live and let live. Boys! Try to make your girl comfortable in your presence. Make her feel good but ensuring that small things are taken care of eg: opening the car door when she get’s into the car, keeping a track of small things of what she likes, make her laugh, respect her, never make a joke of her ‘in a negative way’ in front of friends, light jokes are fine keep the conversations on and last but not the least always acknowledge her small kind gestures. So event if he does smoke, drinks a little, doesnt like pets, divorced, has kids, has some financial liabilities it does'nt matter the only two best gifts you can give her are your TIME and ATTENTION.
So next time if you think you are emotionally weak, not good looking, not financially stable etc etc etc because of which you are not worth her, cut the crap! Just remember, you need to ask her out. A woman would always stay with a guy who takes the first step…its not EGO its called simply being a GIRL remember we want TIME and ATTENTION!